‘Worthiness, in very simple terms, means I have found a way to let the Energy reach me, the Energy that is natural, reach me. Worthiness, or unworthiness, is something that is pronounced upon you by you. You are the only one that can deem yourself worthy or unworthy. You are the only one who can love yourself into a state of allowing, or hate yourself in a state of disallowing. There is not something wrong with you, nor is there something wrong with one who is not loving you. You are all just, in the moment, practicing the art of not allowing, or the art of resisting.’

I was indeed practising the art of not allowing – not allowing myself to receive the abundance that I so truly deserve.  Somehow I had become blocked and was feeling that I was not at all worthy.  My skills were of no use to anyone and therefore nobody new would be coming to me for coaching.

Fortunately, this missive from Abraham resonated with me on many levels.  It made me remember just how self destructive negative thinking can be. I know this is true, but I am just as liable to negative thoughts as anyone else, although I do endeavour to keep thinking positively as it benefits me, and my clients, so much more.

I thought about this for a little while and it came to me that I have not been giving myself the recognition that I so richly deserve.  I have been hiding my light under a bushel and that is now going to stop.

I work with a fabulous group of coaches in YOU University who love and support me, teach and coach me, learn from me and are coached by me.  I have so much to offer my current and potential clients and my passion is in coaching people to become who they really are.

I am collaborating with my fellow coach Thabi Zikalala who lives in South Africa.  Together we are in the process of creating a course to be held over 6 weeks to help people who have been drug addicts and want rehabilitation.  Thabi will be presenting the course in South Africa and my contribution is helping to design the course and may include video coaching/teaching in the future.

With modern technology anyone in the world can access coaching via Skype, phone, instant messaging and so many other ways.

My own self worth has increased dramatically since I began writing this blog and will continue to do so, especially as I remind myself of all my successes. That doesn’t mean I have a big head, I don’t, I know my own self worth and I am proud of it. I am worthy and I shall not be wasting my time or energy on negativity any longer.

If anything I have written resonates with you, I would love to hear from you. And if you think I can help you I would also love to hear from you. This year is definitely going to be magical.

Maggie Currie

YOU University Coach

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An even bigger accomplishment for me is to let go of my ego mind and have a coach (in fact lots of coaches) just for me.  In the past my ego mind has told me that I didn’t need a coach because I am already one, so what could I learn?  This accomplishment has been a revelation to me and I have learned so much from my coaches this year and grown as a person and a coach myself. My wonderful coaches have taught me that there is still so much to learn in this life and I am enjoying all the learning.

I have accomplished coaching my fellow coaches so they have grown and spread their wings too. My expertise and advice has been invaluable to them.  I have also accomplished finding my voice and speaking up for myself so that I am heard.  I have considerable expertise and a lot to offer and I have accomplished letting people know that.

My book “What you believe creates your reality” is continuing to sell all around the world and I know that there are people who have changed their lives because they have read it and taken action.  I have accomplished some amazing life changes for people through this medium – I know that one person realised that they weren’t in the right relationship and they have ended it and moved on, another person has changed direction completely, been to NASA for 3 months and learned about what she wanted rather than what others wanted her to learn, I also know that my book has been read on five continents and been taken on cruise ships and sent to relatives and friends all around the world. That is some accomplishment.

Another accomplishment is re-establishing a connection with my daughter.  We have had a strained relationship for a few years and this year we are communicating and it looks as though we are getting along much better.  I am so pleased about this.

I have worked with many young people this year as a volunteer through Young Enterprise, The Prince’s Trust and Mentor-Net to help them achieve their goals and aspirations.

The young people in Young Enterprise were still at school (17 or 18 years old) and they had to create and set up a company, elect board members, decide upon and produce a product, build a trade stand and make a five minute presentation in front of local dignitaries.  They had just six months to do this, on top of all their school work and other activities. The team worked well together and my input was valuable to them.  Although they didn’t win any prizes they did come fourth out of ten, which was a huge achievement for me.  I would meet with them every Monday morning at 8.30 in their school for an hour and help them decide what to do, how to do it and advise them.  I thoroughly enjoyed it.

The Prince’s Trust helps young people develop their confidence and gain employment.  My role as a Next Steps Mentor allows those who have been through the Explore Enterprise programme investigate the practicalities of starting their own businesses.  I love working with these young people who have been unemployed for over six months, some have been on drugs, some are from families where it is the norm to be unemployed.  I have achieved so much with these young people, advising them, helping them and I know that those that have started their own businesses have been successful and those that have realised that it is not for them have gone on to get jobs because of the experience they have had and they have realised that they do have so much to offer.

My role in MentorNet has allowed to achieve so much with people who are slightly older.  Some of them already have a business and need to bounce ideas off someone else, maybe because they work alone, others want to start businesses but are not sure what is involved.  I have achieved so much with them, including working with someone who is writing a book and my experience has been invaluable to them.

In May I was hired to coach a young man who was despondent because he had no job and he had lost confidence in himself.  He is married and is a brilliant web designer and computer techy.  I coached him for just one session and a few months later asked him for an update.  He told me that he felt so much more confident in himself and was getting out there in the employment market again.  I was told this week that he had got a job, not just any job! He is now working for Apple.  That is some achievement for him and for me.

This summer I spent a weekend at a pop festival offering people head massages.  This was a great achievement for me as I helped people to get the kinks out of their heads and necks after sleeping on the ground in a tent.  Greatly appreciated by many people and I made a profit too.  So I achieved successful treatment of people and successfully generated income too.

I achieved looking after my mum, who will be 88 on Boxing Day, for a week whilst she was recovering from breaking her hip.  She was feeling very low and I stayed with her for a few days and cheered her up and got her doing things for herself.  I achieved getting her to realise that if she didn’t do some things for herself she would end up in a home and she would not like that one little bit.  So now she is getting about with the aid of her zimmer frame and sounding so much better when I talk to her on the phone.  She is a very independent lady and long may she remain so.

All in all this year, 2011, I have achieved a tremendous amount and I know that 2012 is going to be even better.  I have a vision for myself for 2012 that is moving to a new house where I will have my own space, a lovely garden, attracting the clients and funds to me that will increase my income significantly.  I shall be attracting more success for myself and manifesting much more paid work and publicity.  I can see myself writing another book and  presenting teleseminars, webinars and workshops.

I can also see me working with coaches in other countries to build the confidence, self-esteem and help people to become the people they are meant to be.  I can specifically see this happening in South Africa with my good friend Thabi.

I am planning to go to a few more pop festivals this year and earn some more money and have a great time too.  I love head massage and meeting so many different people from all walks of life.  Sometimes I see the same people year after year.  It is also great fun.

I shall continue to coach and be coached by my friends in deed in YOU University and to grow even more as a person and help them to grow too. 2012 is going to be a magical year.

Maggie Currie

YOU University Coach

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I was offered the position of tutor for an online life coaching programme that offers a diploma in life coaching and since I have done this course myself and passed it successfully (admittedly some years ago) I know what it involves and the basics of the course itself.

My job will be to mark the students’ work when it is sent to me, to offer constructive criticism and help them to become good life coaches. I will get paid for every one that I mark and an additional amount for any further communication with any of the students. Reimbursed for postage etc. So this will give me a regular income which is good.

The other opportunity is for using my coaching/training skills in a different way. Someone is in the process of setting up a new charity which is aiming at helping women to move forward in their lives following divorce, emotional abuse, addiction etc. I had a telephone conversation with the lady concerned yesterday and have sent her some information about my background, qualifications etc., so she can get a feel for me. This would also bring in income.

I am keeping my mind open on this one, as I have other commitments and I want to give my best to them, and if it means spending too much time away then I shall decline.

It is wonderful to have these opportunities and to notice them when they are offered. It is also good that I am considering my options and taking care of me first.  This is essential and not selfish.  If I don’t look after me then I will be letting myself down.

I believe I am manifesting income and that I am manifesting exactly what I need when I need it. I want to build my coaching practice so that I know I will have a steady income and help as many people as possible to live their lives in their own way.

I believe I am learning every day more and more about myself and I am loving this journey of discovery.

I believe I will have a new home next year that will be perfect for myself and Kelvin and that my own space will come with that home.

Maggie Currie

YOU University Coach

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I am feeling frustrated with the leaseholders of my flat. They are driving me mad! I live in a lovely flat that I own, it is upstairs on the first floor (second floor if you are in USA) and I have beautiful views of the Solent, the mainland, green fields, trees and the ever changing occupants of the fields –  cows, sheep,  pheasants wander through, a horse grazes, wild birds land and take off.

Now I understand fire regulations and the need for them, what I don’t understand is the constant hassle I receive from the leaseholders. I recently replaced my armchairs and offered the old ones to the lovely lady who does my cleaning, Shirley. She was delighted as her daughter is moving into a flat and needs furniture and she said she would collect them as soon as she could arrange it. So I put them out on the communal landing overnight, until she could come and get them. Would you believe that the fire inspection officer came round yesterday and has given me an enforcement notice saying that if I don’t remove everything from the landing within 24 hours they will be taken away.

Fortunately Shirley came and collected the chairs last night so this is not a problem now. But it seems that I am not being allowed to live my life any more. I have had to clear out the loft because it is claimed that storing anything in the loft is a fire hazard. When you consider that I have downsized twice from a 4 bedroomed house, to a 3 bedroomed house to a 2 bedroomed flat, there is a whole lot of stuff that has been stored in the loft. I have given some away, I have sold some things, and there is still a load of stuff in my living room that I am constantly tripping over. Apparently the loft space is not for storage and the leasholders own that space.

The leaseholders have already taken off my front door and replaced it with a solid wood fire door with a tiny window that does not let in enough light.  I was threatened with court if I did not comply.  My lovely double glazed front door is now on the communal landing and is the subject of a legal dispute.  That is not going anywhere and if it attempted to be removed by the fire inspection officer I will be instructing my solicitor that I am being harassed by the leaseholders. My lovely front door has been perfectly fine for 10 years, so why can’t I put it back?

I have had enough! I want to move and I want to move now! The only thing is I can’t afford to. I am looking for opportunities and for ways of moving. There is a beautiful bungalow I can see from my window that is for sale. Unfortunately the asking price is £287,000. There is no way I can afford that sort of money for a property.

So my emotions are up and down – I am so pleased to have emotions that I can relate to, this is such a huge step forward for me. Onward and upward.

I know there are people out there who can relate to all or part of this and if you would like to get in touch, please do.  I want to help as many people as I can to become their authentic selves, to heal their past and really feel their emotions.

Maggie Currie

YOU University Coach

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I am not feeling very well, I ache in various places, have a headache and a scratchy throat. Nothing too bad to keep me in bed, but enough to make me feel not 100%. The ache is more of a pain, not in any bones or muscles, but in strange places all over my body.  My head is feeling thick and my eyes feel heavy and dry.  I believe it is just a bug of some sort and will pass in 24 hours.  But it has caused me to think about how I feel about how I feel.
I realised today that for years I have hated being ill, and still do. It makes me feel a failure and I just want to curl up in a corner and be left alone. I hate the way it makes me feel. I don’t want anyone to fuss over me or nurse me or try to make me feel better. I feel ill, that makes me feel inadequate and that brings out the emotion of hate. Hate of myself because I am not 100% and that makes me feel even worse. I am the worst patient in the world when I feel unwell.

So how is this a breakthrough? It means that I do have emotions and feelings.  I haven’t acknowledged them or recognised them for some reason. Now I am recognising them and this is just the beginning. There will be so much more to recognise.

I have been working in YOU University on this with Maria Sobrado, a fellow YOU University Coach, and she has given me various suggestions and some exercises to do. I have done some of the exercises and they are working already. I am loving this process.  Maria and I have similar backgrounds in that we were both adopted and had parents who didn’t understand that we were people in our own right.

I know that some of you reading this will resonate with my story and if that is the case and you would like help please do contact me. I would love to work with you and help you to become the very best version of yourself.

Maggie Currie

YOU University Coach

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I know differently.  I have been on both sides of that argument and I know exactly what I am talking about.  I have been there, I have resisted being coached. I have been coaching for many years and successfully changed the lives of lots of people, both male and female, young and old.  But, and this is a big BUT, I resisted being coached myself because my ego kept telling me that I was ok, I was ‘fine’.

Then I found YOU University online, and I read through the pages and I was intrigued by the depth of work that had been put into the various programmes.  I was so intrigued that I contacted the creator of the programme, Maia Berens, and we spoke on the phone and I told her that I had to be part of this innovative coaching programme.  Maia told me that I would have to be coached myself, and I was still a little resistant (well my ego was) but I signed up there and then. And I haven’t looked back.

I worked through YOU University from beginning to end, my ego has been booted into the back of beyond, I love being coached, coaching, watching people change and grow and I love all the friends I have made and continue to make.  We support each other online, on the phone, via Skype. We encourage each other and we learn and grow more and more each day.

So, are you in need of coaching? I suspect you are.  You can find out clicking here and it will take you to a short assessment. Answer all the questions honestly, yes really honestly, and you may well surprise yourself.

When you have finished your assessment, I would like you to come back here and leave me a comment. Did you surprise yourself? Are you ‘fine’? Do you think that you would like to experience coaching for yourself? Are you a coach who, like I did, thinks that you don’t need coaching?

I look forward to hearing from you very soon.

Maggie Currie

YOU University Coach

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Of course this left very little time for eating properly. Breakfast was a bowl of cereal and some toast. Mid morning brought biscuits or crisps, lunchtime was sausasge rolls and pork pies or a bacon sandwich. In the evening we did manage to cook a ‘proper’ meal like pasta or meat pie, potatoes and vegetables, but were too tired to really enjoy it.

At the time the days just whizzed by and I didn’t pay much attention to my feelings or what was happening to my body. I just got on with the work and loved it all. When I returned home, however, this was a different matter entirely. I felt sluggish, had a few spots, needed a couple of days of normal food to get my body and myself back on track.

I felt physically drained and tired, I felt mentally exhausted, and my stomach (which has to be nurtured all the time due to severe illness as a child) felt unsettled. I felt sick, tired, unmotivated and exhausted all round.

A week later, some proper meals inside me and taking more notice of what I am eating, and when I am eating it, has brought about a different ME. I am energised, not tired or exhausted and motivated to get on with everything.

I was never this aware of how I felt or how my body responded to food, lack of food, different foods, eating habits until I learned so much more about myself in YOU University. I have learned that I control my destiny, I control who I am, I control what I eat and if I let go of that control I am no longer being me, I am succumbing to someone who used to be me.

Watching what I eat, when I eat it, how I feel, noticing my body’s reactions are now daily habits and I amaze myself with my own awareness. Of course there are slip ups, I am not perfect, and I have to fit in with working away from home etc., but in general it all works very well for me.

Maggie Currie

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I was at a weekly networking breakfast and was collared by one of the members. Her husband has applied to join the group and the rules state that only one type of each profession is permitted, and no direct competition – although there are a few businesses that cross over but offer slightly different services. Her husband is a trainer and covers a lot of what I do, so I objected on those grounds. I don’t even know the man, so I have nothing against him personally.

Well she had printed out copies of her husband’s website and copies of mine and circled bits and pieces and told me, in no uncertain terms, that I had made a mistake and that I should go away and read these pages and come to a different decision. Not the greatest thing to be greeted with as soon as I arrived at the meeting at 06.50! I told her I would read them.

Having been working through YOU University and Relationship YOU I have learned much more about myself and how to notice, acknowledge and deal with my feelings and emotions. So I took real notice of what my body was telling me and what my head was telling me. I noticed that I had a knot in my stomach, I felt physically sick. I was angry that I had been accosted in this fashion and with her bully boy tactics. I sat and analysed how I was feeling and what I was feeling and I was feeling anger, frustration, annoyance and I was feeling upset.

I did read the pages that had been printed out. I did not however change my mind. I wrote to the chairman of the group as follows:

‘I was very disappointed with the behaviour of this person this morning and found her attitude and bully boy tactics to be totally uncalled for. Having said that I have read through the printouts of the website that were thrust into my hand and I am still of the same opinion.

There are many things that he does that I do. For instance Motivation, Dealing with Personal Stress, Mentoring, Effective Meetings, Team Building, Train the Trainer, People Management, Leadership, Facilitation, Customer Care. So I am still not happy with this businesses joining our group as it will be in direct competition with me.’

Having written this email I noticed how I was feeling again. I sat and took real notice. I felt calm and collected, no longer frustrated or annoyed and I wasn’t upset any longer. It feels right to me, and I know that I am right. I object to being treated in this manner, but I am sending thoughts of love to her and shall treat her in the same way as always.

I know that I have made a huge leap here in my personal growth in noticing my feelings and emotions and acting and not reacting to them. If any of this resonates with you, you may want to call me or click on the links to find out more about YOU University.

Maggie Currie

YOU University Coach

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Heather has given me an exercise to do to work on one emotion at a time and I began with fear.

here is the exercise that Heather gave me:

Draw a doorway with the door ajar. Behind the door is your emotions. Imagine standing with your hand on the doorknob about to push or pull it right open.
What emotion would come flying out first? Write down 1 emotion you want to work on.
Imagine what you feel. Go back to a time when you felt that emotion. How it affects the body and mind, heart – feel it physically. Try and get in touch with the emotions and feelings. Write about what happens.

here is what I wrote about this experience.

The first emotion would be fear – fear of what is behind the door.
How does fear feel to me?
I remember being about 8 years old. I had been to a party for a school friend’s birthday. I had been taken to the party by my mum in the daylight. I know it wasn’t far from home, about 15 minutes by foot. The party was over and one of the parents collecting their child had a car and they said they would take me home. It was dark by now. I had never been allowed out of my street on my own, and I had no sense of direction. The person driving the car looked at me and asked me where I lived and I told her the address. She started the car and we drove around for a little while, about 5 minutes I suppose, she then asked me where the road was that I lived in, were we near it? I had no idea whatsoever as it was dark, I was small and could barely see out of the window of the car. She said I must know where I lived and where my road was. I was petrified that I would never get home and that she would think that I was stupid. I wasn’t stupid, it was just that I had no idea where home was and how to get to it. I remember starting to shake and shiver, and tears came into my eyes. I probably looked like a scared rabbit. Her child was in the car too and she was laughing at how I couldn’t find my own house. They didn’t realise that I had not be allowed out by myself anywhere and had no notion of how to get home.
I remember being frightened and embarrassed at the same time. We eventually got home and my mum said thank you to whoever it was driving and they explained that I didn’t know the way and then everyone was told that I had no sense of direction and therefore I couldn’t be let out on my own. So apparently it was my fault or so I thought at the time.
So fear to me sweaty palms, more rapid breathing, sometimes shaking and frequently the feeling that I need to wee, even though I know I don’t. I begin to feel unsure of myself and that just increases the fear and those symptoms just increase.

After doing this and sending it by email to Heather we had a chat about it via Skype – I am in UK and Heather is in Australia. So it was 7am BST and 4pm in Australia. Heather commented that she was pleased that I had written about the effects of the fear and that she felt I had connected.
This is a huge breakthrough for me. Thank you Heather and thank you Relationship YOU. I am feeling my feelings and unblocking and expressing my emotions and loving it all.

Maggie Currie

YOU University Coach

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Gina, Heather, Teri and I had an animated conversation covering all sorts of different topics, we laughed and reconnected as we hadn’t all spoken for several weeks due to holidays and illness. We all learned something, we all taught someone something, we definitely connected and we were relaxed, trusting and open.

Sometimes things just don’t work, and maybe there is a reason for them not working, maybe it is just technology being too sophisticated, maybe it is just not meant to be.

The gift of this situation was renewed connection with my friends in deed, a sense of belonging, trust and belief in each other and ourselves, learning from each other and of course trusting each other.

I am amazed at how far I have come since beginning YOU University. In the beginning on our weekly calls I would say very little. I would listen and absorb all that was said and all the lessons I was learning. I gradually learned that I could not only trust my friends in deed but that I could trust myself too. And that was a huge lesson for me.

I can now say what I think and know that it is well received, it may not always be agreed with, but where would we be without our own values and opinions?

There are so many gifts from this situation. The love and trust of friends, the learning, the teaching, the compassion, the truth, the bonds and so much more.

I may not have recorded the call for everyone to hear, but those that were on the call will remember it for some time to come.

If anything you have read has struck a chord with you, and you would like to know more about my journey and how you could begin yours, then please contact me. I am looking forward to working with you.

Maggie Currie

YOU University Coach

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